Since last week I’ve been battling it out with HR because my boss kept forwarding my emails to HR with what should have been just discussions between a boss and her employee. Basically issues of feeling overworked, strained, etc etc. She knows I've been trying to get her to get more help for the department for months. Then out of no where she schedules a 3-way meeting between myself, her, and this new lady only 2 months new to the company who’s basically head of HR. My boss and this new lady all worked together from a previous company. My current boss was just hired back in October. The first meeting I had with her, immediately from the start was negative. Her tone of voice over the phone, rapid speech, the constant "tsk" she'd make like an agitated black woman arguing with her boyfriend. She basically kept telling me how I felt and how I feel now does not matter anymore since the department had hired 2 new people 7 months ago. 1 to replace someone we let go and an additional add, which my entire department had been trying to get for over 1.5 years before they finally let us do it. 2nd meeting with her was with my entire department. She was supposed to help us come up with viable ideas to help alleviate the workload and stress everyone was feeling. She's never spoken to anyone else in my department except my boss and myself from the day before. That meeting went negative also. When my coworker began to talk to explain to her how he felt, where he was coming from, what he thought we needed, etc... she immediately cut him off with.. "This isn't about how you feel. We're here to talk about solutions." It was very cold, she sounded clearly annoyed. And it was a complete disregard for how he or anyone felt. That shocked my entire department. 3rd meeting with her was 2 days later between myself, her, and my boss. Again same thing. Her "tsk" sounds, rapid speaking, etc. This time around she repeatedly kept telling me if I didn't like it here, I should re-think if the company was right for me. Basically telling me I should just quit. Like the entire hour long meeting that was her underlining message over and over. That I should think about if working there was right for me. That meeting I also called her out on her complete lack of caring or concern for how I felt or how anyone felt. I summarized everything she was saying to me and said.. "So you're basically telling me this this this..." She immediately gets offended with "I did NOT say that." To which I realize she's clearly not listening to me. So I restructure my sentence to say.. "You obviously didn't use those exact words, I'm summarizing." Which she immediately continued with her argumentative defense with "I DID NOT SAY THAT." So I restructured how I said it again and said "The message that I was hearing that was coming across with everything you were saying was this this and this." To which she finally changed her tone and was a bit more calmer etc. 4th meeting I had with her was last Tuesday. I scheduled a meeting with her to try to fix whatever this negative hostility she has towards me and to try to brush it under the rug as just a miss-understanding. That we got off on the wrong foot, etc. That meeting I scheduled through zoom... and zoom puts up a red dot when someone's recording it. So she was recording the entire meeting without disclosing it to me but I don't know if she realized I could tell she was. That meeting was pretty ugly. I opened up with telling her I wanted this meeting to clear things up so we can have a positive working relationship, that I feel we got off on the wrong start. etc. Gave background about myself, who I am in the company, etc. I was the 2nd most recognized employee by other employees as having gone above and beyond, etc. Everyone in the bank knows who I am... except the people in loans. My interactions with them is bare minimal. I have racked up praises from clients left and right. etc. After that She we go into what went on with the meetings the week before. Why I felt they were negative. To give her specific examples. So i do. VERY specific. Tone of voice, her "tsk" sounds, agitation, cutting people off when they're trying to talk about how they feel, etc. She starts lieing by saying she doesn't remember cutting anyone off. That she has notes written down. And she proceeds to tell me her recollection of events during my department wide meeting. I immediately correct her because it was clear to me she was obviously lieing and trying to rewrite history so it didn't look bad on her. I told her exactly how the meeting went up until the point where she cut off my coworker, who's also the guy who's been in the department the longest and the most important guy there, and in my opinion is far more important than most people in the entire company. She finally settles with "She doesn't remember, but if it did happen that way, she didn't mean to come off as seeming to not care." blah blah... whatever I was thinking to myself. I just kept being professional and continued. Then when we talked about her constant rapid speaking and "tsk" sounds, she started talking about having cotton mouth as the reason why she was making them. That her mouth gets dry. Again, it was obvious to me she was completely making that up because at no point in that recorded call did she make those sounds. Also, she kept muting her mic and I could faintly hear voices in the background that I don't think she knew I could hear. She clearly had other people listening in. One voice sounded like it could have been the CEO... he has a very distinct voice. I couldn't make out anyone else, but throughout the call i could here there was a full on discussion happening in the background. She probably had them on her conference call on her phone while doing the zoom meeting with me so they could listen in and discuss it among themselves. So I let her get away with her obvious lie and say... Ok.... sure... etc. Moving onto the next example because she asked me again to give her a clear example of what happened that I thought made it negative. So I started to talk about the moment she was getting clearly defensive with the "I didn't say that!" moment. She cut me off before I could get more into detail about that moment and side tracked the conversation to prevent me from fully revealing that example. And went on to say stuff like "What you experienced is what you experienced. It happened, we cant change that. etc." Anyways, that entire conversation it was blatantly obvious she was trying to cover her own ass. She was lying left and right. She was clearly talking to and probably getting advice from other people with what to say because she constantly would mute her mic during moments where I'd start telling a story of some kind. I was legit as professional, honest, sincere as I could be throughout that entire meeting because I knew she was going to try to use it against me if she could. But I was soo on point with my sincerity, that there's no way anyone who listens to the conversation would think I had nefarious intent, and in fact, it would be blatantly obvious that she was being insincere and lying. In the end I got what I wanted, my department got the ok to hire a temp. That HR lady called my other 2 coworkers who's been in the department for years right after my call with her. She apologized to the guy she cut off. Then when she spoke with my other female coworker she was spewing more lies to try to tweak the events just enough to where it didn't look like she did anything wrong. Whatever. When my coworker told me what she said I shocked yet again. Anyways I've completely lost any and all respect for the head of HR. She clearly has no integrity, honesty, or sincerity. Her entire goal was just to protect herself and rewrite events to hide how significantly worse she made everything. Ok.... so my questions to you are... after having read that. Do you think they'd still be trying to build a case against me to fire me? (I'm not a person that can easily be replaced. If I left or was fired it would have a severe and immediate impact on the company and take MONTHS to find, train, and get someone up to speed to recover from my leaving. I'm a Treasury Management Officer where myself and 2 other coworkers do the work that covers 4 departments at other slightly larger banks. My tendrils are everywhere except the loan department that I barely interact with.) Do you think their intent was just to build evidence to protect themselves should I try to sue? (Which I have no clue what they could be sued for. I legit just wanted more help.) Do you think I should just quit and go somewhere else, citing that I've completely lost all confidence in the new head of HR? (BTW I do love working with my coworkers.) I know my boss really done fucked up too by pulled HR into it when it should have been a conversation between her and I. She should have been going to HR trying to get help for the department instead of trying to single me out like I'm a trouble maker. I've also lost all confidence in her and so has my other coworker. But... I'll just drink the Kool-Aid and be as professional as I can and do what I need to do, but she's already been avoiding talking to me. LoL. Funny thing is I know I'm more valuable to the company than she is and she's my boss. After 8 months in the company she still has no clue how most of the stuff works. I don't even know what she does most days. I keep hearing she's just doing training seminars of some kind. Myself and my other 2 coworkers could easily run the department without her. She's useless.