Addressing people by name

Discussion in 'Spamalot - nsfw' started by AgelessDrifter, Dec 6, 2017 at 6:48 PM.

  1. AgelessDrifter

    AgelessDrifter TZT Neckbeard Lord

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    I have always felt that this is a strange thing to do, and it usually puts me a little on edge when people do it

    Obviously there's the aspect of it feeling like a salesperson tactic to make me like and trust the speaker

    but also, it's just weird--I already know who I am, and I already know you're talking to me and not someone else because we're having a conversation

    and I also feel like it's sort of--if not an equivalent exactly--a verbal analog of the alpha-guy shoulder slap. Like it's not a way you speak very often to people you see as your equal, and even less so to people you look up to (although maybe to a person you have kiss up to)

    But I get the sense I'm in the minority on a lot of this. What does Spamalot think?
     
  2. Agrul

    Agrul TZT Neckbeard Lord

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    i guess that's an ok opinion, agelessdrifter
     
  3. AgelessDrifter

    AgelessDrifter TZT Neckbeard Lord

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  4. AgelessDrifter

    AgelessDrifter TZT Neckbeard Lord

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    We of course all know that the only acceptable form of address online among friends is 'pal'
     
  5. Utumno

    Utumno Administrator Staff Member

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    There's a guy who does this @ work constantly but I always assume it's just supposed to be a personable thing. I'm mostly neutral to it except I wonder if he expects me to address him back by name (which I don't).
     
  6. Sear

    Sear TZT Neckbeard Lord

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    that's right pal

    there's psychology behind that too tbh, but it always felt less disingenuous and more informal/impersonal to me
     
  7. Sifter

    Sifter TZT Addict

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    It is red-pill alpha-male technique to do this.

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  8. Sear

    Sear TZT Neckbeard Lord

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    if I have to politely tell sales ppl to fuck off and let me look at stuff on my own more than once, I just start messing w/ them and making shit up to see how long they'll play along
     
  9. Red

    Red TZT Neckbeard

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    Pal should oolways be used ool the time
     
  10. Harper

    Harper TZT Addict

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    I call people by name all the time. it's probably a power thing I guess cause I hate it when people do it to me
     
  11. Utumno

    Utumno Administrator Staff Member

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    That's sortof weird HARPER
     
  12. TuccTZ

    TuccTZ TZT Abuser

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    I make people call me Benny because of TZT and it cracks me up.
     
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  13. Utumno

    Utumno Administrator Staff Member

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    Fuck yeah, big benny starks
     
  14. Vlaara

    Vlaara Maaruk the Mighty

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    I address people by name, I don't see why this is weird. I even address people I have known for decades by their name. This doesn't seem weird to me at all.
     
  15. Jong

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    yeah it doesn't feel weird to me either. I do it because I know that people love the sound of their own names and also its nice to communicate to people that I remembered their name (with someone I'm not that close to). But even people i know well, i will still do it sometimes. Because it comes from a good place, I don't think, if you heard me say it to you, that you would dislike it.

    I feel the same way when people say "buddy," sounds condescending, but I have two friends that, any time either of them says "buddy" to me, it sounds heartfelt and I can't possibly object to it
     
  16. Klerick

    Klerick I have loved some ladies, I have loved Jim Beam...

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    I'm pretty sure Ageless meant a constant reference to someone by name in a conversation. That is weird.

    "Hi Ageless how are you doing?"
    "That's so good to hear Ageless"
    "So Ageless, how is your family"
    "Ageless, has anyone told you how funny you are?"